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This is an article that talks about my personal experience in finding and getting a mentor for my journey to financial freedom. If you want to double your speed of success, avoid the unnecessary mistakes and do the correct things to achieve the right results faster, then you must read this article as I will provide tips choosing and finding the right mentor for yourself.

When we are born, we know nothing. All the knowledge, know-how and information that we have right now is learnt through a process called learning.

Let me ask you a question: How we learn?  

We learn from someone. We learn from our parents, teachers, book authors or others. We gain our knowledge from others and there is no other way to do so. Generally, the person that we learn from is someone we usually called Mentor.  

Mentor is very important to us especially if we have a goal to achieve. For example, if you want to achieve financial freedom like me, you got to have a few mentors who can help you in business, investing, money management or even personal development. It is the best if you can find at least 1 mentor for each field that will bring you to success.

How your mentor can help you?

Following are something that you should know about a mentor and how he/she can help you to succeed faster:

1. Your mentor had experienced what you are going to do. Your mentor is someone who had done what you are going to do. Therefore mentors can share their experience with you so that you can boost the speed of achieving your goal. I have a mentor in my business. He always says that the main purpose of getting a mentor is you can absorb their experience. This will make you avoid those unwanted trial and error and hence do whatever it needs to be success directly. This can save up your time and achieve whatever you want faster.

2. Your Mentor are willing help you. Your mentor is someone who can lend you their ears and time to listen what problems you are having now. After that, they will spend their time and help you to solve the problem. I remember that in my earlier years in business, I was lack of experience and I generated a lot of problems. Each time my mentor will spend his time, sit down and explain the ways to solve the problem. I really learned a lot through this process and this make me feel that it is good to have a mentor standing right beside you. But of course, this is also a time you can learn from your mistakes.

3. Your mentor is not really a friend for you. Friend and mentor are different. A friend can always laugh and be nice to you. But a mentor is not. In order to help you, sometime they will be strict and force you to do something. Once they know that you have to accomplish something to succeed, they will not compromise with you and force you to do so. In this process, you might feel angry, sad and hurt, but after that you will know how good is your mentor to be strict and help you. How I know this? My mentor used to do this on me.

4. Your mentor shows you the facts and not opinions. Let me give an example of a fact and an opinion. If someone tell you that Mary is a good girl to marry. This is just an opinion of someone. But in order to find the fact, you have to really stay with Mary and see whether she is really a good girl. So a mentor can really point out the main elements that will help you to success. They are experienced and they can provide some facts for you instead of some opinions that are not really accurate.

5. Your mentor always stays with you when you are down. I can tell you that there will be moments you are down and sad on your journey. Most people will give up at this emotion stage. This is a crucial moment and you need someone to discuss and talk to. You need someone to stay beside you and encourage you. Your mentor will be the right person to do so. This is another benefit of mentors as they can motivate and encourage you to move on.

My Personal 5 Tips to Find a Mentor

Now you should know how important it is to find a mentor for your journey. So here are some experiences that I learned last time in the process of getting a mentor for myself.

1. Know what you want. First you must know what you really want. Once you clear with this, then search around and look for those who have done what you want to do. 

2. Your mentor not really your friend. Please don’t limit your searching over your family and friends. Your mentor can be other people. For example, my mentor is my computer teacher who was teaching me computer when I was 13.

3. Don’t be hesitating and ask. Once I set my goal and know who can really help me on this, I just asked my mentor whether he can help me and guide me to achieve what I want to.

4. Be ready to take some challenges. As you know my goal is financial freedom and I want to learn how to run a business. My mentor knows about this and in order to prove my desire, he passed a challenge to me. So be ready that you mentor might give you some challenges to test you.

5. Offer something. There is no free lunch in this world. So offer something to your mentor in exchange for their knowledge and experience. In my case, I offer “working for free” to my mentor. I will work for free in his company and in return, he will teach me and guide me to run a business and achieve financial freedom. Besides that, working for free is a way to prove my desire on my goal too. I think mentors only help those who have desire to success, aren’t they?

Above are just my own tips that I get from my experience. Nowadays, because of the Internet, I found that it is getting easier to search for a mentor. I saw people find their own mentor and communicating through the internet. For example, I found my Blogging Mentor, Yaro Starak, through Internet too. So what you have to do is setting a goal and ask around in the internet. I believe there plenty of people, especially in forum, are ready to be your mentor.  

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